Just as white people can’t fully understand the black experience, I think straight people tend to maintain a simplistic view of what it’s like to be gay in our culture.

This article gave me a better sense of what it means to come out, and how the popular notion of coming out as a unique instant in time may be a simplification of the real dynamics of that process.

Becoming yourself is deeper than going public about your sexuality. It’s more than a single conversation around a kitchen table (or a Twitter timeline). The before-and-after narrative tends to mean more to straight people than it does to the actors at the center of this myth.